blogging issues

a little controversial...

Thursday, February 03, 2011

So over the weekend i tweeted about a topic that i wanted to chat about on my blog but was scared to in case people took it the wrong way.. my blog is a style diary, pretty much all about fashion.. I'm not a writer, i don't do' blogging issues' or topics I leave that for the intelligently well written words of Jen and Gem for example..and admire how they can take an issue and break it down in a non judgemental non offensive way..
So the reason Ive decided to write this is because this is an issue that affected me and left me thinking.. basically about the bloggin world and what fashion bloggers expect/accept as free..
most bloggers out there have gotten something for free at one time or another be it something as little as free images of new collections via email or lookbooks, some get make up or body products to try out and review..others get free clothes, the very popular ones get designer free clothes..
None of this stuff has ever bothered me.. occasionally ill be green with envy when i glance across the gorgeous shoes on Fashion Toast but thats as far as my thoughts have ever gone..
until that is..
a few months ago I was reading one my many favourite blogs and the blogger (who will remain nameless, as Ive said I do not want to offend anyone) mentioned how she was havin a low patch in her life and that she didn't feel like a success. Her words touched me, i mean id been reading her blog for months and i felt like I knew her. So i wanted to do something..I decided to draw her
an illustration of herself taken from one of her outfit posts. I spent i dunno a few hours doing so.. I'm not an artist or illustrator of any kind but i did fashion and art in college and had been wanting to pick up a pencil again so thought this was a good reason for doing so!
I sent my sketch and a little email stating how much of a success i think she is, how she inspires me and how I hope this lightens her day just a little..

When I sent this, I didn't hear back from the nameless blogger.. i don't know what i had been expecting.. i didn't want her to mention it on her blog or anything like that. As i said I'm not an artist i wasn't trying to publicize myself.. but i don't know..i expected a thank you.. is that presumptuous of me? Ive had drawings done for me and some lovely lovely emails from girls all over the world and they have made my day.. so far Ive managed to reply to every single one.. I couldn't not.. i almost felt silly for spending the time doing this drawing in the first place.. I felt like it hadn't triggered any feeling with her, it hadn't made her happy or touched her in way.. well not enough to reply.. and it got me thinkin.. what do we take for granted in the blogging world? do we all expect something for free? I hope i never get to the point where a hand drawn image of me from a complete stranger doesn't warrant a reply...

I hope my point came across in the way I intended... I'm not annoyed at this blogger and I still continue to read her blog.. like I said it just got me thinking about what should be accepted for free..





random photos to lighten the mood after my text heavy post..

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70 comments

  1. its killing me to find out what happened? D:

    I do believe some bloggers can be quite arrogant. As a small time blogger but being around for a while, I've seen a lot of bloggers rise and forget to thank their followers for their success. Multiple times I have commented with questions with no reply. It can be very disheartening. There also seems to be a small clique of bloggers who seem to advertise and "big up" each other without putting forward some people who are amazing and well worth a mention. I think blogs have changed, it used to be a way of talking to those you felt were similar to you and understand you. Now it sometimes feels like a popularity contest, with the "prettiest" people forgetting their humble beginnings.

    Sorry for a rant that went off the point :')

    Thought Id say you're one of my favourite bloggers, polite, bonny and beautifully dressed. Much love

    xxx

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  2. I can't stand arrogance. I think that no matter how many followers a blog has the blogger should still be true to themselves. I think the world of so many people on here. It's a shame that common courtesy can go a miss with some. If you ever drew me I'd send you a vlog of me weeping, haha. Some people just don't know how lucky they really are!

    P.S Don't put yourself down! You can write these sorts of posts just as well as anyone.

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  3. Dont worry, some people are sometime a bit ignorant, but dont let it put you down and dont feel silly! Id LOVE if someone did that for me.
    I also love your outfit and i really want your hair!
    XXX

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  4. I think that is really sad as im sure she doesn't forget to reply to those offering her products for free.

    I think that was a really lovely thing to do for someone and it is small things like what you did that should be the highlight of someone's day but it seems like blogging is turning into a material popularity contest rather than a chance to find people who interest you and of which you share common interests.

    I hope it didn't get you down too much.

    Ani x

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  5. i am so glad you wrote this post vicki.
    it was very well written.
    i would feel the exact same way you are feeling if i was in your shoes.

    just a sidenote: you are beautiful and you are a fabulous blogger.. <3
    xoox

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  6. Wow. I think that's insanely rude of her not to acknowledge your niceness. I mean, you didn't have to take time out of your day and draw her something to cheer her up a bit, did you? You did it because you are a nice person... I don't understand people like that... I think it's really spoilt.

    And by the way, I love these photos, they're very cute!

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  7. Courtesy is something we all should possess, but unfortunately some people take it for granted and don't see it the way most of us do.

    I am not a popular blogger by any means and have never been given anything for free through blogging, but the more I see it happen the more I am beginning to think maybe just maybe it's not all it's cracked up to be.

    I think a lot of bloggers have become so self focused on gaining popularity, that there forgetting why they started a blog in the first place xx

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  8. i am glad you decided to write about this. I have a similar situation in that I had been following a blogger for awhile and really admired her videos. I wanted to know what kind of editing software she used so after much deliberation I figured I would just email her and ask....what would be the harm in that. Well I got a response back but it was very rude to say the least. Apparently she mentioned the editing software in her FAQ which I hadnt seen (although I did check it out...I must have missed that question)and was offended that I would take up her time to ask such a dumb question. I hope I never end up like that or like the blogger you encountered.

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  9. This makes me so sad. I would absolutely treasure something like that, something handmade is worth a million times more than a mass-produced body lotion or piece of clothing. Maybe she didn't receive it? Or it went to her junk mail? I may be being naive but I just can't imagine someone not replying :( x

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  10. You are so wonderful Vicki - I want to hug you! It was such a lovely thing for you to do and you should've received a thank you from the blogger. I'm really shocked that you didn't!

    I think some bloggers have an inflated idea of their own importance. Yes, blogs are big news and those with thousands of followers will be courted by brands and the media... but the fuss will die down, and if those bloggers haven't invested time in building their community, they won't last long.

    I would love to see some of your illustrations. xxx

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  11. That's so sad that you did that and this person didn't even say thank you! That's awful, could never do that to someone!


    I love your blog, you're very down to earth and it's what makes you stand out <3

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  12. That was really lovely of you to do that. I think you're definitely entitled to a thank you! I think the support of the 'blogging community' is one of the best (and for me, unexpected) bits about it, so it's a shame you didn't get a response.
    And as I said on twitter, write about what you want :) I'll be reading, I love your blog!
    xx

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  13. Love the tshirt!! I can't believe she didn't say thank you, that is rude no matter what the situation! It's just manners to thank someone especially if they had gone to so much time as you obviously did.

    When I finished uni I bought a bottle of wine for my personal tutor but he wasn't in on that day so I gave it to his wife to pass on. I never once got a thank you and to be honest I did expect to get one, it really doesn't take long to write an email!

    I know we can all feel a little envious when we see people receiving gorgeous and expensive clothes for free but I didn't (and a lot of people I'm sure) start their blogs to get stuff for free. I'm sure there are a sad few out there who did after seeing the success of others but blogging isn't about that, it's about having fun with what you write and sharing your thoughts and opinions with like minded people. It'll be a sad day when the majority of people start expecting stuff for free and not even bothering to say thank you!!

    I hope the person involved reads this posts and feels deeply embarrassed!!


    Bow Dream Nation xx

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  14. I agree with you, it's not that hard to write even a short 'thank you' email. I always answer emails from my readers and I actually enjoy it - when I know someone cared enough to write me an email it always makes me happy :)

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  15. I'm glad you decided to write about what was bothering you and you've done it really well. You did a lovely thing just to make someone else smile which was amazing of you, a quick thank you email takes no time at all! I Can't believe she couldn't be bothered just to say "ta" most bizarre!
    That really is such a cute top, I love it xx

    Kittenish Behaviour Blog

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  16. That was such a touching gesture you made and I feel sad that the recipient didn't feel the need to thank you. I would be overwhelmed with gratitude at such a kind and personal gift xx

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  17. It doesn't take much effort to say thank you. I hope she reads this and gets the message that she hurt your feelings.

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  18. The owl jumper makes everything better!

    I think it can colour your opinion, though, when you make an effort to reach out to someone and they don't respond. As a very very smalltime blogger (mostly read by irl friends) I find commenting can sometimes be a bit intimidating - there's already a community in place and how will it react to your intrusion? I think most bloggers are awesome folks, though, and it's worth the effort almost all the time!

    K xx


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  19. I think what upsets me the most about this is your reason for drawing her. I think the fact that you went out of your way to cheer up a stranger is so selfless and sweet of you - instead of some who may do it purely to gain traffic on their blog.

    You write beautifully - don't put yourself down! :)

    I'd love to see your drawings too x

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  20. Are you absolutely sure she got the email? Some things go to a spam folder. One of the guys I work with finds every fifth email I sent him in his spam folder...it's very random.

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  21. I'm like "E is for Eleanor", I can't imagine someone not replying, because it it were me, I would make sure to reply! Its just rude otherwise :) I'm sorry that you had that non-response though, thats awful.

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  22. Oh no :( That's such a wonderful thing that you did and I can't believe you didn't get a response! I'd probably cry if anyone did that for me, it's beautiful!

    I hope that she got the email and that it didn't get lost in the depths of the internet. I'd be over the moon to receive something like that!

    Keep smiling! You're a wonderful person <3
    xoxo

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  23. Oh nooooo :/ I can't stand arrogance!!!

    You is beautiful :)

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  24. ohhhh :-( That makes me sad. SUCH a nice gesture, i love it! So thoughtful. Maybe they didnt get the email? Maybe it went to their junk folder and they never opened it? Maybe I just have too much hope in people!

    I know what you mean, I agree to a certain extent, but personally that's why I dont tend to reallly focus on the "big" blogs so much, yes I still follow them and enjoy them. But personally, for me, I much prefer those that I feel I can "get to know" (am i deluded?! Probably), those who pop up regularly and you can tell genuinely enjoying communicating with you. THAT is what blogging is about, for me.

    I genuinely find you interesting and honest.

    xxxx

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  25. Maybe she didn't see it? You're such a nice person, I have a hard time believing someone just wouldn't answer you. If anyone ever took them time to send me a drawing, I would be SURE to respond!!

    I'm sorry :(

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  26. I am so glad you did this post. It's not good to hide your emotions & confusion, especially when you have such a great community of fellow bloggers that go through similar situations.
    I do think a lot of bloggers take free swag and nice things for granted.
    In the past when I've won an award and my first ever contest, I thanked the host of both fervently. I mean even being given a shot at winning something we would otherwise have to pay for is pretty special.
    The fact that you've gone through so much effort and really cared enough to do such a sweet gesture speaks volumes. I can't believe she didn't respond in any kind. If anyone did anything remotely sweet like that, I would give tons of cyber hugs and thank yous.
    Hopefully she just didn't check her messages yet or something and will soon enough and appreciate what a great thing you did.

    xx

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  27. what an amazing gesture of kindness. I don't think that it's presumptions to have expected a thank you, then again I'm one of those people that sends thank you cards just because. I think it is unfortunate what some people take for granted in life as well as in blogging. You've definitely got me thinking about this topic.

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  28. i think that was such a nice thing to do, i cannot imagine ever ignoring such a gesture. It's beyond me, it really is. And it is these kind of people that really diminish my hope in others :( xx

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  29. Wow, I'd be honoured if someone did that to me. I honestly think that blogging makes some people far too arrogant - they think that because so many people care about what they have to say they don't need to give anyone the time of day.

    Reading this though, reminds me that there are still kind, thoughtful people like you out there :) x

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  30. How nice of you sweets! I honestly think that you are one of the most lovely bloggers for taking time to reply to people through their blogs. Some other blogs I follow I have read since they only had 50 followers and they now have 3000, still never heard a peep. Not that I expect it, but when someone like you responds on my blog it is very much appreciated by a tiny spec of a blogger like me!! :)

    x x

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  31. That's really sad. I know exactly how you feel, I'm always a bit disheartened when I write to a blogger to tell her how much I admire her and I never hear back. It's kind of sad that blogging is supposed to be about meeting "real people" and yet we up with people who end up with massively inflated egos.

    PS - I love that sweater so much.

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  32. Wow. What a gorgeous thing for you to have done for someone, as you thought they needed cheering up. And how awful that a thankyou has been overlooked.
    Perhaps it's worth a quick tweet or DM to them to check they got it? I know it's really awkward though. I've been in similar positions myself and thought "But if they DID get it and are just ignoring me, I'll feel like a total knob!"
    You really do come across as a fantastic person Vicki, and all of your readers I'm sure massively appreciate you. Lots of love and hugs xxx Maddie

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  33. Just a simple thank you would have been nice. I f anyone had done that for me it would have made my day, I think you are a very kind and generous person, never change.

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  34. I'm sorry to hear that your kind gesture didn't receive a reply or a thank you - that is so rude. Some people really do need a reality check. The fact that someone who reads their blog would send them such a kind, thoughtful present to cheer them up should mean a lot. Not acknowledging it really highlights their (lack of) manners x

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  35. I think a sketch from another blogger is one of the greatest things someone can receive. Unlike make up/lookbook images, it's more personal and unique. And you must have spent a lot of time of it as well. You definitely deserved some kind of a thank you, or even a mention on the blog.

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  36. i think it's really sad when it's clear that some bloggers are only in it for the free things..there are a few big (in terms of followers) blogs which i followed, and now i no longer bother leaving comments for, as i have never had a question answered, and clearly am wasting my time. some people are just rude.

    but that said, some of the people i have met through blogging are super lovely, so please don't think everyone is like that (i'm sure you don't but still!)

    i love your jumper - where was it from?!, and you are clearly one of the aforementioned super lovely ones, proven by taking the time to do somethign to cheer up somebody..

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  37. I don't like or appreciate arrogance of any kind. I don't understand the bloggers who do things so they can get free stuff or whatever. I enjoy fashion blogs and seeing what people like to put together, but I think some are obsessed by it & think it gives them warrant to be rude or think their great because of sponsors or whatever.
    But, what you did was a self-less thing to help, maybe the person felt embarassed to reply (I would hope) or something. I hope it wasn't something arrogant as that's just wrong. Not everyone bothers to reply, it makes me give up even commenting on the stuff they post, as I feel why should I!?! The scetch showed real feelings, I just hope they realised that. Try not to be too hard on yourself, you did a great thing!! I've done something like that with a blogger I really enjoy and never got a reply, so I just have to leave it and not let it stop me from being me, I wouldnt do that to someone else & if I keep that, then I'm the one who won, not them. I agree with Jess at the top, it does seem a popularity contest now instead of hearing someone's feelings or creativity. We should fight to keep it that way!! The pictures are sweet and I love the hat :)))) Have a great friday & weekend!!
    xxxx

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  38. Oh Vicki that's such a shame, especially after you'd taken so much time and done something so personal to cheer someone up. I hope it's a case of junk email rather than them just being rude, I really do. It's just plain and simple bad manners!

    All the winners of my Christmas giveaway were lovely - I got thank you emails when I announced the winners, again when the prizes arrived, blog posts about it, even thank you cards through the post! I think bloggers are some of the politest people I know nowadays so I'm really sorry one of them has been so rude to you.

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  39. Your time, thought and effort should not have gone unmentioned. No one should expect anything for free and if something is received proper thanks should be given, in the bloggersphere and in the world.

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  40. Manners do not cost anything so there is no excuse to not have any. I think it was extremely rude of her not to acknowlege it and I hope she reads this and feels ashamed of herself.

    I don't get free things but people leave me comment.s I try to reply to each one because if people have taken time out of their day to read what I have said then I should do the same. It takes two minutes to write a nice comment back!

    Dont try and get too down about it :) From what I have read you seem like a really lovely and kind person!
    Sophie
    x

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  41. It would never occur to me NOT to thank anyone who did anything for me,

    especially for something as personally and lovingly done as a sketch (in my opinion better than any designer shoes, really!)

    It actually upsets me that someone wouldn't take the the time to thank you :(

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  42. I'm just found your blog and I'm so glad I did. I've been feeling a little disheartened by bad blogging etiquette lately. I reply to every comment I can even If its just to say thanks for commenting because my readers comments really mean something to me and yeah maybe its because I only have a few readers and they don't comment that often and other peoples blogs have hundreds of readers and loads of comments but it doesn't take long to say thanks. I took the time to comment on someone so why is it so hard. I realise what happened with you is different as it was so much more personal to the person but I think sometime people have to realise blogging isn't a one sided conversation. I f it is then maybe they need to reassess why their doing their blog.

    Stephanie May

    xx

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  43. That is really nice of you that you drew a drawing for them to help make them feel better. i can't imagine not saying Thank you if someone did that for me, because that's really sweet and honoring. I'm sorry that it seems like some people in the blogging world are just that selfish and that in need of attention that they can't be appreciative of anyone else at all. :(

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  44. What a lovely gesture of you, and I think you're right to feel upset/annoyed because a thank you costs nowt. I hope the explanation is that the email disappeared before she read it xx

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  45. Ah Vicki, this kinda saddens me to read! How could someone not appreciate the thought and effort it took to do such a thing? It makes me wonder if she actually received it, do you think she did? I suppose I'm trying to think positively about it for you. This post ties in so well for the one I have scheduled for Sunday. Well I think it's a beautiful thing you did anyway xx

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  46. Did she definitely receive it? If so that would have upset me too. It's understandable.

    What a nice thing to do.
    xxx

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  47. Some bloggers can be so arrogant! Especially those with lots of followers who seem to think they run the place...
    I'd have definitely been over the moon about that and said a super massive thank you!
    Love your owl jumper in the pictures!
    xoxo

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  48. sorry to hear that you didn't get a reply, how horrible! i'd like to think that it went to her junk folder or she accidently deleted it, but from what i know from the blogging community i don't think it did. it's a shame really, some people can be so mean. in the last few months i have recieved vouchers, clothing and invites to places, but i always thank whichever brand sent them to me on many occasions, mainly because i'm just so humbled and honoured by the fact they have offered to give them to me. though i have to say, sometimes when bloggers send me emails, i read them, get distracted, then forget to reply for weeks! though saying that i think if somebody sent me a sketch it would definitely be embedded in my memory...

    you are such a lovely person vicki, i'd love to see some of your sketches! xxx

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  49. :/ seriously SO rude. i can't believe you didn't get any reply, that's awful. urghhh. you should share some of your work on your blog? xo

    wakeupbuttercup.blogspot.com

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  50. I don't think expecting a thank you was presumptious at all and I think blogging this was quite wise as you said it, what do we expect for free? I, for one, have never received a thing for free because of my blog and maybe that day will come which would be great, and maybe it won't but it's not what I blog for. I really hope the day never comes where I can't reply to everyone because the positivity that IS out there is so lovely and something to cling onto when people in real life can be less than pleasant :)
    great post. I think you should keep sketching, would love to see you post something here you've sketched!
    xox

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  52. This is a very nice post of you =) I tend to feel a little jaleous too when I see al those big bloggers out there, but then I remind myself, I would never want to be so out in the open as they are. My blog is about two months old now and I am just "one in a million" but still I enjoy taking time to browse around the blogosphere every day. It can be a very inspiring world. But indeed it has it's downsides. I also read the blog from this nameless blogger, and I saw the apologypost she wrote about the accident today. It shows that this post has made people think and might just make a difference =) x

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  53. i'm not a regular reader, but i just wanted to put in my two cents because everyone seems to have decided the blogger is arrogant and rude and ignored you on purpose. which i suppose could be the case. but maybe we should remember that we never completely know what someone else is going through however candid they may be online. maybe she completely appreciated it but simply forgot to respond. i read emails on my phone all the time, but would rather take the time to respond on my computer and yes sometimes it slips my mind. or maybe she never received it at all. did you send a second email making sure she got it? i think we need to try and cut each other a little slack instead of ganging up when you don't actually know why she didn't respond.

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  54. You're a honey and I thought you phrased this really well. Lovely blog, girl, I will be a-following x

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  55. I'm sorry that happened. I've found myself replying to something WAY late though because I read it at a weird time where I wasn't able to respond immediately and then I remember a month later that I never wrote back. Maybe it was something like that. Maybe she thought she did write back? Whatever the case, you don't deserve that and it was very sweet of you to want to make her feel better.

    Oh, my ring is by Cleo & Cat. I got it at Anthropologie. :)

    Oh, oh, and you're looking mighty cute as always. :)

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  56. This made me quite sad to read. I like the way you wrote it, because you don't project any conclusions onto this blogger. We never know people's motivations or even things that happen by accident that shouldn't; e-mails get lost, end up in the spam folder, or responses sit in the draft box half-completed and forgotten...
    But I do think the issue here is expectations (not your own, because I think it reasonable to expect a reply/thank you), but bloggers I don't know...expecting to be like another blogger, another person. We are all failures when we measure our success in terms of how others are doing. It's natural to see things and want them, but I think we have to be careful to not think that we won't be successes unless we get what others have...when we have things of our own that no one can lay claim to (mostly our gifts, talents, history, and experiences).
    Anyway, I think your post was thoughtful and sensitive; I wish some of your commenters had exercised the same restraint...

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  57. Did you draw her a picture to cheer yourself up, or to cheer her up?

    A thank you is always nice, but if you're expecting it and get upset if/when it doesn't come, doesn't your "kind gesture" cease to be about making the other person feel better, and instead about you?

    Just playing devils advocate here. I've already read the other blogger's heartfelt apology and explanation to you, so I think I have the full story. Sounds like you've worked everything out, so I'm glad.

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  58. Love your blog. I'm following.

    Check out mine if you got time. Just started.
    Karoline Kalvo

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  59. yeah i totally undrstnd how yoo feel. but thats not gonna stop yoo from blogging or doin other fun things...like looking gorgeous...cheers!!!

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  60. I've just found the apology and I'm glad that she only just forgot to reply, as you can never really know the full story about such things. Anyways I bet you're glad you got this off your chest and that it's somehow been resolved? Such a cool idea to draw other bloggers, I've been meaning to try it for a while...

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  61. I'm glad this has got resolved if I'm reading Kristabel's comment right? It was such a lovely thought, and really lovely of you. Thank you for your kind words, but you are a great writer!! xxxx

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  62. i read your post when it was posted and i just noticed the reply on her blog as well. it's really a shame that this happened, i...like you, definitely expect thank you's in return for things i do...whether it be big or small. i've always been taught growing up that that is the polite thing to do so i definitely don't think it was wrong of you to assume you'd get something in return (even if it's a simple thank you) i hope that it does not deter you from doing nice things in the future.

    also, i like that she recognized what she did and blogged about it...a public apology of sorts, that would have taken some courage to do...and it's nice to know that because of this situation, she has decided to change things in her life in regards to finding time to reply to emails.

    keep being you,
    i love your blog!
    xo,
    carly

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  63. oh, i forgot to mention...LOVE your sweater, so cute!

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  64. This is such an interesting post. It's a shame that blogger whoever she was never wrote and thanked you. All I can say is maybe she really was depressed, to the point where even writing to say thank you was difficult for her. I don't know.

    All I do know is I try as far as possible to say thank you for everything I receive, be it an invite to an event, a free sample, a comment, a link back to my blog - everything!

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  65. When a kind gesture does not produce a thank you... and that makes you upset... what were your true intentions? Sometimes out good deeds do not get a lot of attention but they are still appreciated. A post like this bothers me a little because you have 60 some-odd comments from people basically making this girl seem like a horrible wretch when it was just a misunderstanding. I highly doubt that bloggers who receive nice free things like fashion and beauty supplies to test out have become so jaded that they would not appreciate a kind gesture.

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  66. I am so glad you stood up about this issue. Blogging is no different from real life and you would hope nobody would treat you this way in real life, it was rude of this person and you certainly don't deserve it!

    Carol x
    www.mystylisms.blogspot.com

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  67. hey there! first time here!
    i'm glad it's resolved now (saw the apology post) :)

    just wanted to say that the owl jumper you're wearing in the photos is insanely cute!

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  68. This is a brilliant post, well done for having the balls to say something.

    I often feel the way you've described here, although I've never gone so far as to draw an illustration for someone to make them feel better! Thats absolutely lovely of you and all I can say is that I value all the feedback I get and an email like that would absolutely make my day and I like to think it would always have that effect, no matter how "popular" I became.

    I think you raise an issue here which is important for bloggers to address,

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  69. I, like a few others, linked over to this post from the apology. I certainly am thankful that this was, in the end, used as a learning experience and a reminder that etiquette applies even when so much of this communication is done online and not in handwritten notes. I have ceratinly neglected completing thank-yous in a timely manner, but I also offer freely the fact that I know I am self-centered, and I'm working on it.

    In one of my classes last semester we had to answer a question that involved whether or not we expect thank-yous when we hold the door for someone. It was an interesting exercise, examining motivations behind the things we do, and how we expect "polite" society to interact.

    I do think your thoughful action deserved a thank-you, as it's clear you thought so too. In this day and age it seems much more safe to expect nothing in return and be happily surprised by a thank you.

    On another(ish) note, I am not part of the fashion blogging community, so I think it's HILARIOUS how tender and polite and sweet you all are when calling one-another out. People who write writing blogs pride themselves in being astute assholes for comedy's sake, and if someone takes offense to a public berating they are totally labeled a whiner. It's so charming to come and read fashion blogs where you all care about not hurting someone's feelings even when your own feeling were hurt.

    Bless all of you fashion bloggers for making the world a pretty place :)

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